A less than casual first fortnight..

I have been in Lille nearly a fortnight now, preparing to start work as a teaching assistant in a lycée for my year abroad, and even I am shocked at the amount of ridiculously embarrassing incidents that have occurred so far. Yes, I love the food and yes, I’ve made friends but what I really want to document is how awkward it is trying to casually blend into another culture when you make as many daily faux-pas as I do.

On my first day here I thought I’d try and master the metro as it only has two lines here in Lille, but sadly even that was too much, and I instead marched purposefully down a flight of stairs into a multi storey car park. It took ten minutes of looking for my pretend car and acting casual before I resurfaced again, and gave up on the metro completely.

The second lesson I learnt in Lille was to beware of nightclub lurkers. Fairly obvious in any dingy club in England, but when you’ve just arrived in a foreign country, all you want is friends. Surprisingly enough, nightclub lurkers don’t want to be friends.  In fact, if you’re stupid enough to give your number to one who claims to be an ‘English student’, you might just end up getting voicemails demanding English lessons to top up his ‘studies’, which actually turn out to consist of listening to Eminem, Jay Z and Kanye West.  

However, despite common sense fails like this, there is something that genuinely confuses me about Lille, which is the tramps (and there are a fair few). One came up to me the other day, asking for money, wearing the exact Adidas jacket I tried on and sadly decided was way out of my price range.  To make this worse, I was then approached by one wearing chinos, with an iPod. I can’t get my head round this at all, but definitely won’t be paying for a matching jumper to complete his look. In fairness, my general bitterness towards suspicious tramps comes mainly from what happened to me yesterday morning, where someone actually did try to mug me, while I was just minding my own business on a bench in the train station. Out of nowhere, one by one, more and more gypsies came and sat far too close to me, until one grubby child was on my lap and another one was playing with my hair.  Thirty seconds later, I’m completely surrounded and the dad appears, asks to borrow a pen and the kids are trying to open my handbag.  I made my sudden bid for freedom and had to send a couple of sticky toddlers flying, but a quick anti-bac of the pen and the handbag and luckily I didn’t lose anything. But this proves that lurking extends from nightclubs to train stations and beyond, so beware all suspicious (and possibly well dressed) lurkers, particularly if they ask to borrow your pen of map. They’d really rather borrow your phone and your iPod. Permanently.

Along with these weird little incidents come repeated issues that mean I will never appear even vaguely French if I don’t sort it out. The first is that I get stuck in about half the doors I open, if I manage to open them at all, today’s highlight being that I couldn’t even open the right door to get into McDonalds, and then  noticed my landlord laughing at me from inside. The second issue is that I nearly get run over at least three times a day, so it will be a miracle if I even post another blog.

It will also be a miracle if I ever understand how to behave at a French house party. Never before have I been in a room where silence breaks out for ‘everyday I’m shufflin’ followed by a manic scuffle of shiny Cuban heels all shuffling backwards around the room. I stood motionless and confused in front of this tragic phenomenon, which led to me being asked, in all seriousness: ‘You do not shuffle?’

Cultural differences aside, obviously the biggest issue is the language barrier, where a good proportion of every conversation is lost in translation. The best moment this week was telling my French friends that a cat had adopted me and slept on the sofa and that I thought it was very cute. After a few weird looks and some awkward laughs I decided to look up what I’d said in a dictionary. Sadly, I actually announced that I thought the cat was ‘REALLY fit’.

In reality, adapting to another culture is always going to cause embarrassing incidents. Aside from the fact that I’m gradually becoming numb to social humiliation, I generally take solace in the fact that I can go back to my cheeky city pad and watch Gossip Girl with a cup of tea after a long hard day of pretending to be French.